Vibrate Higher Daily by Lalah Delia

Author:Lalah Delia
Language: eng
Format: epub, pdf
Publisher: HarperCollins
Published: 2019-10-07T16:00:00+00:00

The Problem with Letting the Wrong People In

After I’d left the abusive relationship in my twenties, I thought I had moved on from the wrong people. But what often happens to victims of abuse was happening to me: I left the abusive relationship, but I still hadn’t left the mindset created by the relationship or by the unresolved spiritual wounds that had gotten me there in the first place. As a victim of traumatic circumstances, I fell into the spectrum of those who spiral downward after their experiences with trauma, and in time I lost my way even more.

My wounds were still fresh and exposed, and the person who showed up next in my life saw me in my weakened vibrational state and took advantage of me. Instead of being protected or rescued, as I so yearned to be, I was abused and taken advantage of all the more. My suicide attempt was partly because of the presence of this wrong relationship in my life.

I’ve shared this part of my story publicly and learned that I’m not alone. We are not alone. Being around people who hurt us and don’t serve us—from toxic friends to dysfunctional family members to emotionally or physically abusive partners—has consequences, but we can forgive ourselves, forgive them (because holding unforgiveness can turn into an inner energetic toxin), and move on with better people, toward a better life, in peace and harmony.

Many of us have some aspect of our story we desire to improve, to edit, to transcend, or to redeem ourselves from. Maybe it’s still a tender area for you to touch and work on. It was for me—for years. But I’ve learned that on some level, we’re all putting thought to rising above our old narratives, to reconfiguring our lives. Even when we don’t realize it, healing is a unifying and liberating thing. What I thought were only wasted years in my early twenties—letting the wrong people in, being involved in the wrong things, and feeling lost, confused, misguided, and depressed—turned out to be defining years.

My mindset at the time, reminiscent of South Central LA street culture, was this: do whatever you have to do to survive. A side hustle here and there, toxic friends here and there, and a lost path all came with the territory. Looking back, the pattern of creating social connections around pain, survival, and dysfunction, instead of higher vibrations, was a low vibrational cycle for me.

Out of desperation, boredom, or loneliness, you can be tempted to entertain the wrong relationships.

Remember your goals, and rise above.

Forgive yourself for all of the relationships and friendships you settled for when you weren’t in your power.

I send my younger self so much love. Bless her heart. At that time, she was lost and in much need of higher awareness, vibrations, and guidance, which would eventually, through divine intervention, show up. She let the wrong people in only because she, like many of us, felt alone and misunderstood, and she was not in her power.

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